How Do You Know?

How Do You Know You're Transgender???

Well, this is a fair question. It's both difficult to explain, and easy to explain at the same time.

Simply put, how do you know you're cis-gender? You're a woman and have always been a woman, or you're a man, and have always been a man, right? You didn't have to wonder. You just are.

Well, that's often how it is with trans people. We know from the very beginning, even if we don't admit it to ourselves, even if we push it away with all our might, Even if we don't understand fully, even if we try hard as we can to be the gender we were assigned.

Sure, many of us are gendered male at birth and are female, or we're gendered female at birth, but are male, or some of us are somewhere in the middle, such as agender, or genderfluid, or non-binary. Sometimes it takes years to figure it out, because the clamor of, well, wrongness, can be deafening, and it's hard to navigate through what's going on through the noise.

But eventually, it comes into focus. You just know. It's no stranger for trans people than it is for cis people. We just know. We just are.