The church I attend does something cool, which is that whenever anyone gets up front, they identify themselves by giving their name and pronouns. If you've read a lot of y posts, you know that pronouns are important, and giving pronouns when you get up to talk is a great way to tell trans and non-binary people that they are valued. It's something I wish more organizations did.
Sometimes, though, someone makes a mistake. We're all human, right? There is one man who routinely gets my pronouns wrong, but every time he does, it bothers him and he apologizes sincerely. He intends to get it right. Honestly, my voice doesn't help. I have a pretty low-pitched voice. But I appreciate him, because his heart is in the right place, and I know that, and the fact that he really is trying means a lot to me.
There is another man who also gets my pronouns wrong. He never apologizes, and the way he speaks to me tells me that he doesn't see me as me. I've tried to ignore it, because it honestly comes across as intentional. It bothers me. I don't know what his intent is. It's getting more common, and I'm thinking I'm going to have to talk with him, though I'd rather not have to. I'll keep you posted.
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